So where do you step in. Should you even step in, people resolve their own karmic paths, their own journeys, life lessons, and all that. Not to discount the ego-build up brownie points, that do-gooder pat on the back, which creeps in automatically, can’t miss those red flags of I, I I…. The new lady who cleans the washroom had lost her husband in a nasty road accident a year ago, the kids are pretty useless and the family distant, as it sometimes is. So where do you step in, if at all--do you? A note or two passed wouldn’t make much of a difference to me, but might help her. Usually by conscious effort I try hard to stay uninvolved, preferring people to sort out whatever they have to, would helping interfere with a path of repair and learning that is already on?
I wish I knew.
I wish I didn’t remember what kick-in-the-gut grief feels like, every time I see her
I wish I knew.
I wish I didn’t remember what kick-in-the-gut grief feels like, every time I see her
8 comments:
well...not necessarily a red flag...one helps where help is needed without expecting reward
I thought it was me at first. But then. You teach her how to fish di, instead of giving her a fish. But easier said than done.
mark, I'm very comfortable writing out a cheque to charity, but in person intervention? Hmm...perhaps I will, but I don't want to make her lose her job. or dependent on handouts.
norrbu- you? why? yes,fish, thinking how.perhaps I'd cover fees for the kids, but they are not into studying.
Ok! I covered her bus pass. Had to force her to take the cash.
Austere di - find her a job. Network.
beta... she's uneducated and I have no idea of her antecedents, this is a big city,yes?
Do what you can Austy, whatever feels right to you. Helping others out needs a big heart and all the little things count, including wishes.
yes, I talk to her almost every day and have told her if she needs anything she can tell me...
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